Supporting A Grieving Heart During The Holidays: Gentle Spiritual Guidance for Finding Peace

In my household, the holiday season brings a great deal of joyful anticipation. Yes, I am one of those people—my trees are already up, the house is decorated for Christmas well before Thanksgiving arrives, and Christmas movies, holiday music, and sugar cookies baking in the oven are regular occurrences in the Hildebrand home.

Yet, in the midst of all this joy and celebration, I am deeply aware that for many, this time of year can feel incredibly heavy. If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, you may know all too well how grief can surface more strongly during the holidays. Traditions, gatherings, and memories can stir emotions that feel overwhelming.

As a psychic medium offering grief guidance, I have witnessed how tender this season can be for grieving hearts. So how does one gently support grief during the holidays—either for yourself or for someone you love? Below are a few heartfelt reminders that may bring comfort, understanding, and a sense of connection.

Be Willing to Share Memories

Memories have a way of bringing warmth back into a grieving heart. Be willing to share stories and memories of loved ones, especially with those who are hurting. Many people find deep comfort in knowing that others still cherish their loved one’s memory and continue to hold them close in thought and spirit.

Go With the Flow

Grief is unpredictable. Some days may feel manageable, while others feel barely tolerable. Emotions such as anger, loneliness, sadness, or confusion can rise and fall without warning. If you are supporting someone who is grieving, try to remain flexible and patient. Decision-making may feel difficult, and plans may change. Allow space for this fluidity, and when possible, gently adapt rather than cancel the holidays altogether.

Communicate With Compassion

It is completely normal to feel unsure of what to say to someone who is grieving. Often, fear of saying the wrong thing leads people to say nothing at all. Gentle, honest communication is far more healing than silence. Even simple words like, “I don’t know exactly what to say, but I love you and I’m here for you,” can offer tremendous comfort. For those who are grieving, expressing needs may feel confusing—keeping communication open allows healing to unfold naturally.

Keep on Loving

Grief can sometimes show up as frustration, anger, or emotional withdrawal. These reactions are reflections of pain—not a lack of love. If you are supporting someone who is grieving, try to meet these moments with understanding. If you are the one grieving, do your best not to let grief block the love that still surrounds you. Love in the present moment can coexist with sorrow and can be profoundly healing.

Be Willing to Change Traditions

Some people find comfort in keeping long-standing holiday traditions, while others may need to create new ones. A grieving heart often benefits from meaningful changes that honor the memory of a loved one in a gentle way. Lighting a candle, sharing stories, or creating a new ritual can provide a sense of connection and remembrance.

The holidays are ultimately about love—and love, in all its forms, is deeply healing. Even in the presence of grief, love can continue to reside within us and guide our actions. It may not always feel easy, but it is always possible.

Most importantly, remember this: love never dies. It lives on within us, in our memories, and through the subtle signs and connections that often appear in unexpected ways. As a psychic medium providing grief guidance, I believe these loving connections can continue to support and comfort us, especially during difficult seasons.

May your heart remain open to receiving the love that surrounds you—from heaven, from memory, and from those walking beside you now. May these gifts of love encourage you, strengthen your spirit, and gently bring light back into your heart.

With love, light, and blessings,
Heather

About Heather Hildebrand
Heather is a psychic medium who offers compassionate grief guidance for those navigating loss, healing, and spiritual connection. Through intuitive insight and heartfelt presence, she supports individuals in finding comfort, meaning, and continued connection with loved ones in Spirit. Heather offers both virtual and in-person sessions designed to gently guide clients back to their own inner knowing and divine connection.

To learn more or receive personalized support, explore Heather’s 1:1 psychic medium readings for grief guidance and spiritual clarity.